Be grateful.

Be grateful for things that happens to you, including the bad and the worse.
Because only through the misfortune can you strive to be better.

Be grateful for doors that were shut in your face.
Because they are directing you to the right direction unknowingly.

Be grateful for opportunities that were stripped off you just because you are you.
Because you chose to be who you are and continuing believing in yourself. Be proud of that.

Be grateful of people around you who stick around even when you have nothing.
Because they have no reason to stay, they simply want to. They acknowledged you by your character and attitude, not through other materials.

Be grateful for friends who drop you a "What's wrong?" When they sense something is wrong.
Because they choose to care.

Be grateful for families who doesn't force their beliefs on you.
Because they respect you as an individual with dreams, aims and goals, not as a person to follow their orders.

Be grateful for things that were not meant to be.
Because fate brings you to the right one at the end of the day.

Be grateful for people who chose to leave at your lowest point of life.
Because you will have the right people to celebrate with when you succeed.

Be grateful for failure.
So that you will appreciate success even more and respect those who are still standing strong despite the amount of failures they went through.

Be grateful for people who don't "see it in you."
Because they provide another valid reason for you to succeed to prove them wrong.

Be grateful.

Because when you look back in the future, you will realize the worst moments, happens at the right time.

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Social media is nothing more like a job resume.

Hi guys! Today's issue is one that has been in my mind for the longest time.

So in the previous blog post about relationship, The right one. (Do check it out if you haven't!), I mentioned that:

Mind you, social media is like a job resume. 

And today, I'm going to elaborate more about that particular phrase I came up with.

Social media platform is a wonderful thing, we use it to learn more about other people's life, share good news (sometimes even the bad) to people, be it close ones or mere acquaintances. It's wonderful because we are the "director" of our very own social media persona, something that we like to see ourselves as (which we might not be able to be in real life) and we also get to filter whatever we want to share.

Filtering whatever we want to share and portraying ourselves what we want people to see us as... doesn't this sound like a material you bring to a job interview?

That's right, a resume.



Let's be honest here, we always filter the best of our achievements, things that we are proud of and worth sharing to our potential employer. And those bad habits, traits that we have, be it bad temper, impatience and all? Nope, it will never appear in that resume of ours. 

I'm not saying it's wrong to filter, of course we should present ourselves as the best in front of potential bosses, but one shouldn't judge/trust a person based on their achievement, education or anything that they choose to represent themselves as. I know people who succeed in life in other people's eye who are ruthless or do things that are against moral in order to achieve. Do they ever mention it whenever the interviewer asked "How would you describe yourself?" Nope. Maybe proactive, team player or keen learner will pop up in their mind first.

Well, presenting yourself good in a job interview in front of potential bosses is certainly important, hence the filtered resume is a given thing.

However, this logic is also applied onto our social media nowadays. Like I mentioned earlier, we are the "director" of this social media persona that we have created which we want to see ourselves as the most (which we might not be able to be in real life). Certainly there are a lot of filtering and adjustment here and there behind the scene. Just like a resume, we choose to present the best of ourselves on these online platforms. 


This beautiful couple, sharing everything they are doing on the internet and flaunting their love. Doing all sorts of crazy things together. Seems like they are having the perfect relationship?

Maybe not. Maybe there are all the insecurities they were dealing with? Maybe they had many different and difficult issues they are dealing with it daily?

He is filthy rich, drives expensive cars and constantly sharing all the expensive items/gadgets that he owns. Is he leading a perfect life?

Again, maybe not. Maybe he is dealing with family issue? Maybe all these came from his hard work at the lowest point of his life that is not worth sharing? 




What I am trying to say is, what we see on the social media are just snippets of their life and from one of many perspectives too. We shouldn't take it too seriously nor let it affect us too much.

So what do we do? How do we deal with all these different 'perfect' perspectives of different people on the internet? Here's what I do:

Congratulate, encourage, but never let it affect your decision or life.

Behind every perfect group pictures, smiles, success stories and profiles lies a part of them that is simply not interesting enough to share or even not worth sharing. All of us struggles with different things, issues, matters and honestly this perfect life we all yearn about is beyond our reach. 

So before you comment on how pretty someone is or how perfect their life is and even to the point you want to switch your life with their's... Stop and think twice. Maybe if they share their struggles or problems instead, you might just be contented with how your life is now. 

Never ever judge or see that person based on how they choose to portray themselves on the social media platform. Yes they might be experiencing the best things in life now, but the struggles and hardship they experienced before these 'best things'? I'm sure you will never learn it from their social media platform.

That's how I deal with it, I congratulate, encourage them to strive even better. Yet, I'll never let it affect my decision or let it cast any doubt upon myself. 

Because after all, being affected by something a person choose to portray after meticulous plannings is really dumb in my opinion.

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The right one.

"Today and always, beyond tomorrow, I need you beside me, always as my best friend,lover and forever soul mate." -By unknown

It's Friday night! Let's wind down a bit, let's talk about love.

Isn't love the most wonderful thing? Having that spark electrifying you every time you look at that special someone. How drama or movie portray how wonderful love is and how you literally feel that, he/she is the right one.

Well, I have to break the news to you guys (or ladies), for most relationship, that "spark" normally last for quite a short period or only from time to time. It varies. So how do you manage your relationship after that spark?

Before I start, I have to say...

I'm not a love expert or anything near one, but I learned a lot from my previous relationships and also the current one I'm having. There are moments when it's lovely, comfortable and all good. However, there are moments when it's just bland, disastrous and bad. All these moments, made me learn how to be a better lover and prepare myself for the right one at the right time.

Here, I'm stripping everything down to just the two of you in the relationship. No status, money, materialistic items but just based on the character and us as human. There won't be  a top 10 cafe list that you should bring your girl to, to hoax her or whatever. It will be more of a guide, rules that I have heard of/learned/read and came up with in order to further improve the relationship, or make you think twice before anything. 

So, shall we start? It's gonna be a really long article though.




We are all human. We fall, stumble and are weak at times. When we are weak in a relationship we find our partner, for moral and spiritual support. I mean, what beats consoles or a hug from that special someone when you need it the most right?

Personally, I am a mentally weaker person in this relationship I am currently in (I'm being really truthful and "naked" here). My girlfriend is the stronger one. Therefore, most of the time, I will be the one ranting, complaining or seeking comfort from her. However, there are times when she too, needs support and consoles that she needs. Sadly, I failed to see it at that point of time because I was too busy demanding for support. When I found something was amiss, we sat down and talked about, and that was when I learned something:


1. It's a 49%, 51% relationship.

It's never a 50-50 relationship if you realize (good job if you realized earlier). Be it support, love, feelings, affection. There's always one partner that is giving more. Thankfully, in a relationship, the role of the one giving in switches. 

Aha! It's such a simple thing but some of us don't really practice or don't even know that, this is allowed (at least I didn't until recent months).

Like I said earlier, we are merely human and we are weak, tired at times. How do you continue to give in if you are, weak and tired at that moment? That's when friction starts.

Instead of asking, try giving this time. Things might be really different. Instead of focusing on yourself and your struggles (like I did), open up your ears and give the other party a chance to share, to seek comfort. You might realize how stupid you were to demand so much, when he/she needs that comfort more than you.

This way, I promise you, the relationship will only get stronger.

'love is like tango, one side advances, the other retreats' - Elliot on Just Shoot Me

2. Sometimes the most boring relationship are the most blissful ones.

I'm sure at the start of the relationship, to go on a date, where and what do we do the most?

Here, let me tell you:

1. Town/Orchard
2. Movie
3. shopping
4. dinner.
5. repeat

Of course we can go cafe hopping every weekend. Exploring fun, new places every now and then. But have you ever thought, how long can we keep that kind of lifestyle up?

In the past, I always thought that I MUST bring my girl to expensive places. Fresh new idea or places every weekend! It would be so fun! 

Third month into the relationship and I realized how stupid (and tired) that idea was.

I learned this guide from my parents and this current relationship I have. I watched how my parents do the same thing everyday:

My dad will come home from work, my mum will open the door for him and grab his bag. Then my dad will settle down at the dining table to count his earning for the day while my mum will be sitting down beside him, quietly, waiting for him to share his day. That's it.

It may sound boring to you, or even myself. But what I witness everyday is something I or we all should really learn. We don't need extravagant lifestyle everyday. We get tired of it really easy to be honest. When a relationship is able to be so peaceful, yet blissful, you know you are with the right one. 

Another example that I can share: 

There was once when I was using my girlfriend's mac at her place to try out imovie for a project while she is doing her work right beside me. We were just quietly doing our things while glancing each other from time to time. When the day ended, she sent me a text saying it was a really blissful moment for her when we were just quietly doing our own things right beside each other. I didn't know what she meant at the moment (I don't think she even know what she's saying). After some thoughts, I realized what she meant was, we are mature enough to appreciate this form of quietness, "boring" dates. We are not doing anything particular special, yet we felt blissful enough to be right beside each other.

How often can we sit down quietly beside each other, doing our own things. Yet when we look to our side, our partner is already looking at us? 




3. Space is really important.

I'm sure you have heard a lot about this space we are suppose to respect and give each other a lot. Even myself. But have you really gave a thought about what do they mean by space? Here's my take on space:

Love is when two people fell for each other, having that feeling for each other. But a relationship is when the reality sink in. It's a magical moment when two people, decided to merge their lifestyle together and hope for the best.

We are talking about two completely different lifestyle. Different habits, doings, values and perception and other issues. There are bound to be frictions, arguments and unhappy moments. Well, it's not totally that sucky, it could be great too. Learning and knowing your significant half all over again. But unfortunately, it's when friction happens the most.

Love is when people fell for each other, while a relationship is when two people totally devote themselves in to manage this merged kind of lifestyle together.

One fatal mistake that we all are bound to commit before, is using our viewpoint, perception and values to judge the other's doings and actions.

Now, name one thing you dislike about your partner. Be it their habit, certain doings, aims or actions. Done? Great, now there might be a list of it floating in your mind already (if no, you might already be practicing this in your relationship unknowingly but please do read on). 

Why? You asked. Without a doubt, you love and value him/her. The main reason for this, is that we often judge other's right and wrong based on our own values and benchmark. It can't be avoided, while on the other hand, when we are told to judge ourselves or describe ourselves... It's often on a positive note since we really see highly of ourselves.

Everyone have different viewpoints, values they hold dearly and different principles to different matters. For example, if you don't like squid yet your partner loves it, do you judge her based on this? Of course not, you will think it's dumb to be hating her because she like something you don't. 

See my point now?

Now back to this space thing, what people or book or articles mentioned all the time. To me, it's about this space to let them be themselves, let them have the right to have different views and opinion from you. Respect that we are all individual human, having the mind to think for the best for ourselves based on our own values of life and principles, instead of insisting and stuffing your thinking into the other person's face. If you think they are obviously wrong... Guide, advice instead of forcing them to see it from your viewpoint (you know, the for their own good kind of thing). People will certainly be more receptive to this kind of approach. 

Only when you got the basics, foundation of "different people have different mindset", that's when the individual lifestyle comes in, respecting each other's time and realizing his/her world doesn't revolve around you (which most articles skip this point right away).

So this space thing, holds a really different meaning to me.



4. Stop doing things on impulse.

This, is another advice that you see it almost everywhere or hear it from everyone. Here's my take on this point:

One thing a person shouldn't be doing in a relationship is deciding or promising to perform certain task that are bound to bring regrets in the time to come when you having either positive or negative emotion.

For example, you are mad at him/her and you decided to lash out all your pent up unhappiness at that moment. A classic adding fuel to the fire. What happens? The situation became even more sticky and messy to clean up and when you think of it in the future, you might not even remember how did you guys started the fight.

That's what happen most of the time. A couple quarreled, insults and hurtful words were hurled at each other like nothing and the damage was done. But when you think it back, the issue that causes the quarrel might be so insignificant that you might not even remember, yet because of that split second, when emotion takes over, the result became pretty messed up.

This is really important! Whatever we do, always remember there are consequences. Therefore, it's really important to take control of ourselves in that split second and act based on your attitude, character instead of emotion.

How do we do that? I read a book, The Rules of Life by Richard templar (it's a really good book, it revalues your views and perception on different matter, do check it out) which says:

Count to ten- or recite 'Baa baa black sheep'

I'm not kidding! It's under rule number 16, you can check it out. 

Anyway, yes, it's that simple. Well, it may seem simple here, but when you are actually doing it, it's pretty tough, especially if you are fighting against your emotion.

But see it this way, that precious 10 seconds, or nursery rhyme (any of your choice, you can even recite mary had a little lamb if you like, but of course, quietly) in your head. You might be saving months and years of effort, love, time with that mere 10 seconds or so. Isn't that worth it?



5. Never never ever compare.

I believe you have read my post about The art of comparison (please do if you haven't). It applies in relationship too. Comparing, often leads to negative outcome. For example, you realized that you actually deserve better, why is he/she not rich or good looking enough or why does my relationship is not anything like this perfect cute couple you saw on the social media. How would you like if whenever there's a quarrel, the other party brings out how wonderful the other relationship their friends are having while they are stuck in this?

Mind you, social media is like a job resume. Now, who puts up negative stuff on their resume? (i will be writing a post about this very soon)

Every relationship have their fair share of problems. It just whether they share it, solved it or leave it aside. Some of my friends were saying how perfect my relationship seems to be and how they will lose faith in love if they ever see us break up. Mind you, we have our own quarrels, struggles and unhappiness too. But instead of throwing it away when it's broken or wasting time comparing and hurting each other more, we choose to sit down together and fix it. 

Relationship is not only about the lovey dovey moments, it's when things get tough, that beautiful moment when two individuals with different mindset work together to fix that one thing they love and cherish. Only through the bad, it makes you cherish and appreciate the good. 

That's when you know you got the right one.

Instead of comparing, learn the good things from other relationship, talk to them and apply it. Learn their problems too. How do they solve it, can it be avoided? Does it even worth the effort to quarrel about it? Mind you, you might be jealous of other relationship, while they might be doing the same to yours. You never know.




Of course, a relationship is not only about the 5 points I have shared above. There are so much more. But these are some the rules, guides I have learned through observing or experiencing, the good and the bad. If you do have any interesting viewpoints or guides that you would like to share, please feel free to leave a comment or even hit me up on Facebook. Let me learn a few things from you too!

Have a good weekend ahead lovely people!

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Things might not be as bad as it seems sometimes.

oh that puppy? it's just to attract your attention. Now I've got yours, please read on.

Hi guys! Been rather busy these few days with photo shoots and all... Man, it was a hectic one. To be honest, I am not even done editing the photos yet even after burning two midnight oils (Three actually, if including setting up this temporary macbook my friend lent to me) but.... heck it, I need to come back to this space in awhile just to write out whatever thoughts I have this few days.

So this time round, my process of editing photos was rather slower and inefficient compared to the past. Why? Because my laptop broke down! My champion finally broke down after... 5-6 years? Damn, it lasted me so long. 

Even though its cranky at times, it can't startup unless it is plug in to the power brick (it became more like a...mobile desktop. The irony...), it's slow most of the times, the USB port can't work sometimes, for some reason it can't play video normally and all other problems. But hey, it lasted me so long! It witnessed how I started experimenting photoshop to actually using it as a skills to break into the industry, all my design work were created using this laptop and not to mention that cute laptop skin I pasted ever since I got it (love it). 
I love this laptop even though it can get on my nerve sometimes.

Now, the problem is not about it broke down and I need the money to fix it (although it's a problem, considering I have spent quite a lot previously for my camera fungus issue), the main problem is, I have near to 2000 photos, sitting and waiting in my SD cards for me to open them up and edit them. I can't since my laptop decided to break down at this critical moment.

My first reaction? Angry. I got really angry. At everything, how everything just wants to spoil my plan, schedule and all. How I have to spend another fortune after spending on my photography equipment issues. I started thinking how this year is absolutely not my year and how everything is not going as I planned. 

I started planning in my head of how to get money to fix my laptop ASAP in order to submit my work to the company. Nothing seems to work out and I'm really afraid I can't submit my work on time this time.

Then, I don't know how, helps arrived. My friend have this old macbook pro (running on windows and windows only) that I'm currently using it to blog too to lent it to me for the time being. It's old but work well with the programs that I have to use. He actually lent it to me without second thoughts. Without this laptop, I'm seriously screwed. 

Halfway through editing the heaps of photos, I received a text from a company I worked with in an event about changing some text in a video I have produced for them (when I have informed them to inform me by last Wednesday if there are any changes to be made since I don't have access to imovie all the time... ANYWAY). In the mid of my work and having this request at the same time frustrates me once again, thinking everything and everyone just wants to spoil my plan and schedule. 

Then, I don't know how again, helps arrived. My girlfriend saved the day by editing it for me on her mac with imovie even when she don't know how to really use it. Letting me focus on the work I have currently instead of worrying when can I submit the video to them again.

This may seem like a rant post but I have actually learned something from this incident(here comes the life lesson!),

Things might not be as bad as it seems sometimes.

Yes, things may cock up from time to time, disrupting your work and original plan hence slowing you down. I don't know how I am so blessed with all these people around me, my problems manage to be solved with such speed and little effort. 

What I am trying to say is, do not expect things to be adjusted to you or take things for granted. Things may go wrong, all the time. Instead of complaining and being angry why things doesn't go your way, adjust yourself to the situation instead.

You are the key to turning bad situations into a good one or making a problem disappear. 
Adjusting your mindset and attitude towards different conflicts and matter will make you a more efficient problem solver (which obviously, I did not). You might realize, hey, things are not that bad after all.

This time round, I am really grateful for having all these people around me. Thank you once again for being in my life and helping me without a second word whe

never I run into any problem. 


This year may not be my year, but I'm still very blessed to have you guys around after so many years.

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When you thought you had it all.

Ever had those moments when you thought you had it all, all that promises, a plan that you are just waiting to execute beautifully, yet before it could even happen, it's gone.

It happened to me, thrice this year alone (barely into 1/3 of the year, woah). I had so much confidence in myself, so hopeful of what's going to happen to me. Then I can have my life plan, marriage, part time degree, everything. It was perfect in my head. But guess what, life usually doesn't give you what you want before going through some shit.

I remember when I was still in the airforce, my friends around me who have already got out of National service actually mentioned that they wish they were still in the force. I thought they were crazy to say this. Who didn't want to get out of a life that they hated so much everyday, dreading it every minute? They talked to me, telling me that it's really different to be out here, looking for a job or just getting everyday by. I was so confident with myself and skills that I pushed them aside and gave them a "I got this." attitude. 

Guess who didn't got it?

Oh, how wrong was I, to think that my plan and future after I'm done with national service will be executed perfectly. I will be leading the life I want!

Coming to 6 months of my "freedom" and I'm still barely getting by. (Joke on myself, you might be seeing me serving starbucks coffee really soon.)

Everyone says and tell each other, follow your dream, your aspiration and believe in yourself. We see it in advertisement, drama, movie that as long as you believe in yourself, follow your dream everything will work out fine.

And here, I'm telling you my friend, one thing that no one ever says because being pessimistic about life and yourself is a big no-no...

That's total bullshit.

Unlike the movie, or anything you see on the social media or TV or whatever, everything was nicely planned out, scripted. (Fortunately, unfortunately.)

Oh they ran into a failure while trying to achieve something out of their life, oh someone came by and gave them this opportunity and oh happy ending.

It's a lie. 

We all know life doesn't work out so well. We don't get to meet nice people all the time, appreciating you, giving you the opportunity to learn and grow. Instead, most of time we meet nasty people, who rejects you no matter how well you do, who shuts their door in your face and shouting at the top of their lung if you don't do something well.

That's the ugly truth my friends. Reality hits the hardest when you thought you had it all.

Everyone knows that, but no one really tell you what to do or expect. Why? Because like I said, being pessimistic about life and yourself is a big no-no in other people's eyes. People don't care about how you slogging at work daily, or how many setbacks you have encountered before working as what you want to do and being successful in life.

So do you give up, nope. Don't you even dare. I'm not giving up despite after so many rejects or doors that were shut in my face. Because I know, when one door shuts in my face, another door will open behind me. It's just a matter of luck and time. All these bad experiences, rejections will only build me up and pushing me harder into what I really want to become. Yes, I can get pretty depress or upset at time, you can be depress and upset. Go ahead, we are all human, it's fine. But promise me, brush off those doubts and negativity, get back up and continue working towards what you truly believe you are capable of.

When you fall, get back up. It's hard but you have no other choice. Because you are the "director" of your life. You script your own life with every decision you make. It's not going to be easy but you know at the end of the day, it's all going to be worth it.

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Goal orientated VS Doing-it-for-show.

Tonight's topic? 

Goal orientated versus Doing-it-for-show

So you have got out from a certain lifestyle or job or whatever. For me? National service (I will be using National Service as an example since I have personal experience. Sorry if the ladies can't relate to it). The most common questions thrown to me or you who are reading this (i'm sure you can relate):

"What's next?" "Studying?" "Any plans?"

Or for people here who are a couple visiting relatives or parents friends or whoever are older:

"When are you getting married?" "When are you getting a house?" "Plans to have babies?"

And often, it's through these peer pressure people are applying it on you, unknowingly pushes you to do things that are often.... not quite what you actually planned or wanted.

Here are some signs or hints for you, to know if you are doing it for the sake of doing(to shut people up or just for show), or because it's what you have always planned to do it, your personal life goals.

1. You don't enjoy the process.  

I'm sure you have heard people complaining that life is tough or pondering if this particular choice or path is right for them all the time. (Well everyone do that all the time, but read on.)

To me, slogging hard or even suffering in some case during the process to your personal goals are worth suffering for. Through the process, you learn, concentrate and keep focus towards that goal you have always believed in. You are suppose to feel even more encouraged to keep on going rather than doubting yourself all the times. Of course there will be times when you are depress and even doubt yourself, but if you manage to keep your head up and brush off those doubts off your mind, hey, you are doing for your own sake and that's something to be proud about.

Meanwhile, people who actually doubt every single steps they take, or even ask themselves "Why the hell am I doing this?" more than "It's tough but this is what I want." are often people who make decisions based on viewpoints of others and that, which brings us to the next point.


2. You let other people's viewpoint affect your decisions.


"Why are you studying this field?? It doesn't bring money!"
"Why don't bank loan?"
"Why not just work for the money and plan later?"

If you let those questions above affect your decisions, hey, you are bound to regret one day. It might not be in the near future, but one day. 
"Why?" You may ask. 
Everyone have a different views and values about life. What matters to them, might not to you. So why let others decide what you can, should and not do? 

And I don't mean you can't ask for advice from experienced people. You certainly can, but letting it affect and pressure you in any decision that you make? Maybe not.



3. You made certain decisions just to shut people up.

Recently I heard this story about a couple who had a shotgun marriage. Of course it is the right thing to do, the man should take up responsibility for his mistake(?) and the lady. They did what everyone see it as the right thing to do. 

So they did. Marrying, getting an apartment, happily ever after and people stop pointing fingers or gossip behind their back. So you think the matter is over when the people around them see them settled down? Nope.

After they got married, there were frictions, lots of it. They quarrel over money, baby, family and even the smallest things. They were certainly unhappy. But did anyone care about it (other than the family)? Nope. Because they did the right thing already, who cares how they are managing or suffering after that? No one is interested. But the couple have to deal with it, it's their life after all.

Hold on, I'm not saying they did the wrong thing, of course they must bear the consequences and be responsible of the baby but this is one good example of how people made decisions sometimes, simply because it's the right thing to do in other people's eyes (and shut them up).
We often make decisions based on what people say, just to appease them, or to build that perfect image in other people's eyes. At the end of the day, it is us who will regret.



It's our life. We must be responsible for our decisions that we made for ourselves. It doesn't make any sense how we make important, life deciding decisions based on other people's perceptions and views.

If you haven't found your goal, purpose. I suggest you to keep looking for one. Be focus. Do not settle down because of some remarks from others or pressure to do well in a short time. 
Do not settle for convenience sake my friend. 
We all have skills that we might not even realized yet. Live for your goals, your purpose, not for how people will see you as because it's your own life after all. 

People affect and decides your decision, but when you screwed up, or realized that it's a mistake, will they apologize? 

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The art of comparison.

"I wish I could drive the car he is driving."

"My achievement is nothing, there are people who (input greater achievements)."

 "If only I have her figure/face."  

 "Everyone around me has a degree, what about me? Am I in the right path?"

Ahhhh... Comparing is what people does the most isn't? It's almost an instinct of human to automatically compare whatever we have to others. We can't really help it, even if sometimes we don't even know their name. 

I will admit, comparing is not unhealthy all the time, it pushes us to do greater things, to be as successful or how perfect they are in our eyes. But have you ever thought about the person behind all those great successful stories and fanciful cars? (By that, I mean their emotion, values of life, stories, goals and etc.)

I had a friend of mine, a close friend. Who drives. Yeap. Big, fanciful and expensive car. Who is younger than me and always drive me to school and all in the past (nice fellow). 
One day I was sitting at the back and my mind goes "Someone younger than me is actually driving such a big car and I don't even have my car licence. What am I doing with my life?"

Lets be frank about it, comparing actually brings a lot more negative impact more than a positive impact to our mental being. It depresses us more often. Making us feel lousy about ourselves, even when we have achieved things that meant so much to us. Sad to say, at least for me, it affects our self esteem more than you realize.

Some people may argue that, "Hey, it actually pushes me to achieve greater stuff and be like them! How is that negative?" Well good for you! So what will you do after achieving that? Continue comparing and achieve greater things? Well.. good for you...? 

What I'm trying to say is, there is no point comparing. You might be comparing yourself to someone who is driving a fancy car at the front while he might be comparing himself with you who sits at the back, relaxing (*drops mic*).

Oh yeah. About that friend of mine? I actually voiced out and commented that I'm actually jealous of him able to drive such a car at such a young age one day. And he said: 

"I am jealous of you able to follow your passion in life. Instead of me having to follow the route my dad sets for me, to take over his company one day." 

Instead of comparing yourself to others of higher status (or whoever), why not compare yourself, to your older self? That will be a fairer and healthier competition... to me.
  

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