The art of comparison.

"I wish I could drive the car he is driving."

"My achievement is nothing, there are people who (input greater achievements)."

 "If only I have her figure/face."  

 "Everyone around me has a degree, what about me? Am I in the right path?"

Ahhhh... Comparing is what people does the most isn't? It's almost an instinct of human to automatically compare whatever we have to others. We can't really help it, even if sometimes we don't even know their name. 

I will admit, comparing is not unhealthy all the time, it pushes us to do greater things, to be as successful or how perfect they are in our eyes. But have you ever thought about the person behind all those great successful stories and fanciful cars? (By that, I mean their emotion, values of life, stories, goals and etc.)

I had a friend of mine, a close friend. Who drives. Yeap. Big, fanciful and expensive car. Who is younger than me and always drive me to school and all in the past (nice fellow). 
One day I was sitting at the back and my mind goes "Someone younger than me is actually driving such a big car and I don't even have my car licence. What am I doing with my life?"

Lets be frank about it, comparing actually brings a lot more negative impact more than a positive impact to our mental being. It depresses us more often. Making us feel lousy about ourselves, even when we have achieved things that meant so much to us. Sad to say, at least for me, it affects our self esteem more than you realize.

Some people may argue that, "Hey, it actually pushes me to achieve greater stuff and be like them! How is that negative?" Well good for you! So what will you do after achieving that? Continue comparing and achieve greater things? Well.. good for you...? 

What I'm trying to say is, there is no point comparing. You might be comparing yourself to someone who is driving a fancy car at the front while he might be comparing himself with you who sits at the back, relaxing (*drops mic*).

Oh yeah. About that friend of mine? I actually voiced out and commented that I'm actually jealous of him able to drive such a car at such a young age one day. And he said: 

"I am jealous of you able to follow your passion in life. Instead of me having to follow the route my dad sets for me, to take over his company one day." 

Instead of comparing yourself to others of higher status (or whoever), why not compare yourself, to your older self? That will be a fairer and healthier competition... to me.